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Aug 17, 2021

How can we raise children without imposing gender stereotypes? 

Rae McDaniel is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. They are the creator of GenderFck: The Club, a one-of-a-kind, research-based online group coaching community of transgender/non-binary/questioning folks who are on a mission to transition with less suffering and more ease. 

Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago. They also provide training for medical and mental health professionals wishing to uplevel their knowledge in trans-affirming care. Rae holds a Master of Education in community counseling.

Rae schooled us in this episode on all things transgender, non-binary, LGBTQ sexual identity, and beyond. We dive deep into social location and privilege. Rae reveals what it was like being an adopted child of evangelical parents in the deep south and their experience of gender transition. We really opened up the conversation about gender in a significant way and how we can be supportive parents to our children. Tune in as we chat about transphobia, the fear of change, and why gender should feel like a playground.

In this Episode You’ll Learn: 

  • All about today’s guest, Rae McDaniel [ 0:45 ]
  • What it’s like being adopted by evangelical parents in the deep south [ 7:30 ]
  • How Rae discovered more about their gender identity [ 14:25 ]
  • Why we shouldn’t stress about having a gender nonconforming child [ 20:20 ]
  • Labels are useful when we apply them to ourselves instead of others [ 27:20 ]
  • About Transphobia and why people are fearful of change [ 31:40 ]
  • Why we should follow people on social media who are different than ourselves [ 41:50 ]
  • How there is tremendous biological diversity when it comes to sex + gender [ 45:30 ]
  • Why gender should feel like a playground [ 48:15 ]


Soul Shifting Quotes: 

  • “It felt like I had been walking around in a shoe that was a size too small.”
  • “Discovering my non-binary identity felt like putting on a shoe that was the right size for the first time.”
  • “Labels give you a sense of identity and connection to a community.”
  • “In marginalized populations, having labels that connect you to other people who have a similar lived experience is a very empowering thing.”
  • “Let’s create a world where gender feels like a playground.”


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Tag me in your big shifts + takeaways: @amberlilyestrom 

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